3 Reasons you aren’t doing what you say you will do

In this TEDx video by cognitive psychologist Dr. Amanda Crowell you’ll learn how to move beyond mindset-driven defensive failure and into productive failure to succeed at the problems you struggle with the most. She argues that we get trapped in the same cycles, over and over (sound familiar), and offers advice on how to break those cycles and finally succeed at whatever it is you’re trying to do.

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The case for doing nothing

The Dutch seem to have a word for everything busy Americans need, and this New York Times articles uncovers yet another: niksen. Niksen is taking conscious, considered time to do nothing. Scientists and researchers know that your brain needs a break, to absorb all that information you’re taking in, make new neural connections and pathways in the brain, and allow yourself the time you need to recharge. BONUS: this is also when you might get your best, most creative ideas. So read this, then do nothing, and see what happens.

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Lightening the mental load that holds women back

BCG, the consulting firm, recently surveyed it’s employees across the globe to get a better perspective of how raising children, and taking care of the home in general, disproportionately affects women. There results were similar to what others have found in that, even when men help, they’re doing the easily outsourced tasks, leaving the ‘management’ of home and kids to women…thus inflicting a larger ‘mental load’ for women to carry. They offer some recommendations for companies and families to help alleviate some of the burden on working women. The good news…younger men seem eager to play by these new rules and are making significant progress for the next generation.

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How thinking about the future can make life more meaningful

As a strategy consultant, I think about the future A LOT (probably too much). But this article helped me to justify my behaviors. Written by a Ph.D researcher for Greater Good Magazine, it chronicles the research on ‘prospectus’ or how thinking about the future can help us make better decisions, achieve our goals, fight off negative mental health states and just generally become more kind and generous people. Find out how and why.

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Are things getting better or worse?

This is a great piece from New Yorker Magazine about how science is mostly in agreement that overall Quality of Life (QOL) is better than ever for Americans (and much of the world), despite what our current President might say (and definitely as opposed to what you hear in the media). Average household income, risk of death by accident and serious disease, crime, teenage drug and alcohol use, etc. are all much, much lower than at any other point in history. Life is good. Right? However, the jury is still out on whether that is translating to a higher Subjective Wellbeing (SWB), or overall sense of happiness and meaning in our lives. A lot of this is about perspective: both the media’s and our own, and certainly worth a read

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12 Ways to get unstuck when you’re in a slump

A couple easy things to think about from Thrive Global when you’re just not feeling your best. These are all bits of advice from different perspectives, but the common theme is simple: what’s the root cause of the problem? When you’re struggling at work, or with your kids, or your health…it’s rarely a direct result of what you’re trying to fix. Take a step back, look a bit deeper, and work to really understand what is truly holding you back. Only after awareness, can you can finally start working on improvement.

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Americans’ stress, worry and anger intensified in 2018

A new Gallup poll is out, and unfortunately it’s not surprising at all. Even though our economy is soaring, our quality of life (in terms of stress, anxiety and anger) is declining. We may have more money, but there is a serious cost for that. This is a topic I’m very familiar with and one you’ll hear me rant about again and again…our collective disillusion about what ‘success’ means and how focusing too narrowly on profit, making money or growth at all costs is making us sick. The bottom line is that without a clear focus on what matters most to you, the default in our culture is ‘more is better.’ And according to this new study, the pursuit of more is killing us

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Why is nature so good for your mental health?

I love to travel, to explore, and just generally to be outside. I know that it fills my soul with the fuel it needs to keep going. Now I know why. According to scientists, it inspires awe, which is a key component of building happiness and general wellbeing in humans. Have you been to the Grand Canyon? Visited one of the many great temples, cathedrals or other places of worship around the world? Been anywhere that made you feel small and insignificant, in a good way? This article from the Greater Good Magazine will help explain why that makes us feel so good.

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